Gotta Love Routine
Routine Rules!!! This has worked well for us especially when it comes to homework. We have a significant amount of homework each night due to our son’s learning differences. It has taken some time to get to this point but nightly homework now goes pretty smoothly. We do the homework in the same place, in the same subject order at approximately the same time each night. There is no longer the nightly battles to do the homework — it is amazing. So for those of you going through the nightly homework battle, take heart. I believe that if you consistently pursue the homework battles and establish a routine of what, when and how — you too will achieve a point where homework is no longer a nightly battle.
I didn’t really believe that we would get to this point. If I think back on all of the battles, the tears, and the exhaustion … thank goodness I have a stubborn streak a mile wide!!
We have also added another element to our homework routine. Our school does offer an after-school study program. It is a safe environment where our son can start to transition to independent homework under the close supervision of teachers. We do this two times per week and both us and our son love it. He gets most of his homework done at a reasonable hour and he is very proud of the fact that he is starting to transition to being an independent responsible student. This is a concept strongly messaged and reinforced in our son’s school. Each student is responsible for doing their work with their best effort possible. This is expected at school and at home. After nearly 2 years of this messaging, the responsibility concept is really starting to take root.
Now don’t get me wrong, we still have our setbacks, of course. There are times when our son is frustrated and the fits and tears come back but they are fewer and fewer and they are much easier to handle at this point.
I know in the throes of homework battles that it is difficult to keep going. Goodness knows that I have had my times of exhaustion when I absolutely could not fight another battle. I had to take a break for a couple of weeks to rejuvenate and restore. The last time this happened, I was able to hold on until the couple of weeks of break between the regular school year and school camp (where he does reading and writing throughout the summer).
If you are in the throes of battle, please keep fighting the good fight. Establish a nightly routine of homework and try to incorporate the message that it is your child’s responsibility as a good student to do their homework and to do it to the best of their ability. When you do hit speed bumps in this, work with your child’s teacher(s) to reinforce the responsibility message at school as well.
Good luck and until next time ….. (which will hopefully not be a couple of months like this past time ….) …. take care.