What Is In Your Support Network?
Hi everyone! I know it has been a while since my last post. Life got to be too much and I had to step back from some things for a while.
Do you know how sometimes you know things but you don’t really realize things? Well I had one of those realization moments recently.
I feel like I have a fair amount of connectivity with other mothers. A lot of it is either online or connecting with those that I know in person through emails, texts and so forth. Being a working mother and a working mother of a child with special needs, I don’t really have a lot of time, often, for personal phone calls, lunches or even coffee get togethers.
I do consider myself lucky, however. I have family and friends who provide me with emotional support and listen. Although they listen, they don’t always understand or get what our family’s situation is all about.
I recently volunteered at my son’s school for a teacher appreciation luncheon. It is a great school that focuses on the types of learning challenges that our son has. I wanted to be there to get to know some of the teachers and administration better. The biggest benefit of me being at the luncheon, however, was the other moms there and their support of us and our particular challenges of our first year at this school. It made me feel so much better. They understand specifically the challenges that we are facing this year with the workload and the emotional stress. They have been through it and empathize. They validated the stress that I feel most nights.
It made me realize that having real life connections with individuals who have total knowledge and understanding of our challenges is important too and very powerful.
I am going to be a volunteer in my son’s library once a month for the remainder of the school year. I volunteered because my son really wanted me there. I am going to be the biggest beneficiary, however, because I will have personal time with other mothers who totally and unequivocally understand and empathize.
I call this localized support (I am a geek at heart) and I have come to realize that everyone should try to have a piece of this type of support within their support network.
Online, offline, localized … what do you think? What has been the most powerful type of support for you?
Until next time …. Take care