“The Journey is More Than the Destination” by Cathy and Frank James

“I’m absolutely convinced that men and women, fathers and mothers physiologically grieve differently. What we discovered was those things that worked for one, didn’t always work for the other,” says Frank James, co-author of The Journey Is More Than the Destination. Many grieving fathers will not seek outside help. They ignore books that give advice on coping with death, while women are more apt to read and reread many books on coping. Everyone is different. Men and women find different methods of coping with the unbearable loss of a child. Use whatever steps work for you. There are no formal rules or stages to go through. Women usually take advantage of help organizations, welcoming the support and comfort of others experiencing the same type of loss. Men tend to go it alone. As long as their grief does not lead to: self-abuse, abuse of loved ones, or taking advantage of the situation for detrimental ends, then there is nothing they can do wrong during the grieving journey. There is no right or wrong. There is no timeline or guide to follow. Grieving parents need to find what works for them, giving themselves time to cope with their devastating loss.

To hear an interview with the authors go to www.insidesuccessradio.com/Guests/Cathy-James.